Nothing like a crisis to reveal whom your true friends are. Here’s what to do cut loose from the ones dragging you down after you spend time at a drug rehab in Springfield.
- Identify the toxic ones
Figuring out who your true friends are can be tougher than it sounds. Here are some of the “friends”you’d do better without:
- The addict —If you are getting help at a substance addiction Springfield center, you need your addict friends to also. Cutting them off might actually help them get care.
- The drama queen or king —You know the type: trouble follows him. Or she hardly listens to you before interrupting you to tell you the latest scandal. However he or she demonstrates it, you know what drama sounds like, and you don’t need it.
- Pity-givers —There’s a special kind of drama king or queen that speaks to you in that pathetic tone of voice and seems to think your struggle with addiction is the only fascinating thing about you.
- Enablers —Spotting our enablers can be tougher, but we need to as those people slow or stop recovery.
- Cut-off vs. Drift-off
It’s tempting when you identify someone toxic in your life, to want a touch of melodrama, tell him what a jerk he’s been and how you are better off without him (or her, obviously). Lest we be drama kings ourselves, a drift-off approach is often better than an open cut-off of the relationship.
Feel free to use a cut-off when you’ve tried not returning calls, making other plans, unfriending and unfollowing on social media, and other generally polite ways of dumping your toxic friend.
In the case of a significant other who is toxic, cut-off might be your only option. Work out what you want to say in advance and stick to your script. Meet in a public place to keep the drama down. Dumping a toxic S.O. can be tough.
- Make some new friends
Fear of being alone can prevent us from dumping a toxic friend or S.O. If you are afraid of being alone, speak to your recovery specialist and also try these tips for finding new friends:
- Join a group where drugs or alcohol are not being used, such as a church group, a community class, a service group or a book club (local libraries have listings).
- Ask your trusted friends to introduce you to some other new people.
- Work on your fear until you are comfortable in your own space.
By following these steps and going to a drug rehab Springfield; you can fill your life with the friends worth having.
“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”-Walter Winchell